Five Easy Ways to Get Started with Setting Limits for Your Child
Setting limits and maintaining boundaries for your kids isn’t always easy. Concern for your child’s disabilities may amplify your reluctance.
Here are five tips to help set those first limitations.
- Start small Start small and be very clear.
- Give children time to adjust to each rule, only setting a new one once everyone is comfortable with the old one
- Set Consequences That Make Sense.
- Children and teens cross boundaries, break rules, and make mistakes. It’s important that they experience natural consequences so they learn for themselves that golden word “responsibility”.
- Stick to the Limits You’ve Set In Place
- Consistency is a necessary part of child-rearing, especially when teaching important boundaries that will be carried on later in life. If your child breaks a rule, you have to stick with it and deliver the consequences you said you would.
- Let Kids In on the Process
- It gives kids a sense of control over their own autonomy and life – a sense of independence – that is a crucial part of their development. Parents can strip that away when they are too authoritarian in their parenting.
- Keep Your Cool
- Kids are going to mess up over and over again on the same rule. Keep your cool! Shame is never an effective means of teaching, and it can actually cause a lot of harm. When your child has special needs, it males it all the more crucial that you keep those difficulties in perspective. Your job is to be there for your child, and help your child along the way. This article is adapted from a Friendship Circle Special Needs Resources blog by Tyler Jacobson. To read the complete article click on the link. settinglimits